#348 A step toward Awakening Jan. 17 21

                     A step toward Awakening

“ What are you” or “Who are you” is a classic Koan that every Zen student has to answer properly.

If the answer is related to the “I, me, myself & mine” the student fails and must work on the Koan again and again. So….How to define yourself w/o talking about yourself?

This is a typical counter-intuitive and contradictory statement common in Zen teaching.

We are trying to identify ourselves all the time even if we are not fully aware of the process.

On going self-identification is part of our ego’s job.

If we are asked the question:” Who are you “? the answers are always the same and can be divided into 2:

1) Direct relationship to you such as gender, age, race, religion, traits, thinking, feeling, belief, tastes, etc…

2) But, in fact, most of the answer’s components have nothing to do with you directly because you will define yourself in relation with your surrounding world such as family / social/ professional status.

Example: “ I am a woman/man, 56 yo, spouse of X, have 2 kids, 3 grand-kids, work for Bell Canada, play hockey and I am a non-believer” .I am  born in Canada,  my father was from England…my mother came from Spain,……blah blah blah.

In this typical answer that people will give all the time, none of the characteristics are specific nor genuine to you except of course your 23,000 DNA-based human genes.

Our DNA is unique to each living being not from its chemical composition but only from the sequences of its 3 billion base pairs.

We do need a social ID, This is law and there is no point to avoid it.

But why are we trying to identify ourselves thru others, thru our work or thru this or that.  

“How are you?”……” I am busy”. This is another classical answer of self-identification in which the ego cannot conceive being inactive. We are using role-playing for self identification.

Where is Zen in all this stuff?

The single most vital step toward Awakening is to “di-identify “yourself not only from your material self, your thoughts and feelings but also from your possessions, interactions and role playing with the external world including people.

Using biological, mental profile, interaction with the world, possessions and achievement, etc., cannot define your True entity because they are just proxy and reflection of it.

A mirror cannot be described by what it is reflecting.

Learning to di-identify ourselves from our biological, mental, and social persona is a mandatory step towards awakening that is to discover our genuine self or immaterial. Our true entity is totally hidden behind our ego-made “personal self”.  

True self cannot be described. It can only be experienced. For example: despite thousand words to describe the taste of an orange, only from experience  -that is by eating the fruit – that we discover its taste.

How to get there?

Start by just considering the fact that, maybe what you are defining as “I, me, mine and myself” is not your real entity but just the transient , tiny biological, mental and social reflections of it.

Just sit, tame your mind, walk the journey and discover of your Real self always present.

Does experiencing True self has any day-to day application? You will be surprised.

Thank you arnaud

#347 About complaning Jan.10 21

About complaining

Complaining is one of our ego’s favorite strategies for feeding itself in order to get stronger and more powerful. Ego loves complaining even if, most of the time, complaining will not change anything excepting producing negative energy, which will neutralize our positive one.

I will talk about these later on.

Every complain is a little story that our ego-mind is making up in such way that we believe in it.

Whether we complain aloud or only in thought makes no difference.

Some people don’t have too much to identify themselves and chronic complaining is one way to express their unique self.

When we are in the grip of our ego tricks, complaining about anything but more specifically about people is habitual. The process is mostly subconscious which means that we are not even aware of it.

Applying negative labels to people, either to their face or more commonly when we speak about them to others is often part of our self-identification. There are better ways for it.

One of the common side effect of complaining is to trigger other negative feelings such as guilt and guilt is also one of the tool that our ego is using to built its identity.

So, watch out, if you catch yourself complaining about life, your life, your mistakes, a past or current event, a person in either by talking about or just thinking about silently.

It is worthwhile to realize that complaining is always a cardinal sign of non-acceptance of what life and its content is.

Non-acceptance invariably carries an unconscious negative charge, which may bring more other negative feelings such as anger, resentment, regrets, and fear unless social complaining is part of your small talk and has no negative consequences.

Finally: when we complain, we are making ourselves a victim.

So, what to do as far Zen philosophy is concerned?

The recipe is not new to you because the process is always the same.

Pay attention to your thoughts and words and discover that you are complaining about someone or something, then:

   – Acknowledge and accept the fact that you are complaining.

   – If you can fix it, do it with or without help.

   – If you cannot fix it which is the most common scenario, see your complaint as the inner voice of your ego in search for enhancing its identification. Then let it go.

   – Also, realize that having too many and too high expectations that cannot be met are frequent causes of frustration, anger, and complaints.

– Try to be more grateful about things rather being resentful.

All else is simply stupidity or even madness.

Thank you.


#346 Is suffering necessary? Jan. 3 21

Dharma talk # 346                   Is suffering necessary?

Of course not or ..maybe! However physical and emotional pains are unavoidable.

Events in Life are what they are and not what we want nor what we don’t want to be.

“When we do not get what we want or when we get what we do not want,” we are creating suffering at various degrees…… and Life does not care less.

Few external events such as the loss of a loved one, of a job have/will induce suffering but they are seldom and transient during life and, again, there is nothing we can do about them.

So, most of our suffering is coming from our ego-driven mind with its poisonous arrows such as:

“ I want”, “I don’t want”, “I like”, “I dislike”, I am a victim, my feelings, my illusions,  etc..

I, Me, Myself, Mine” are the roots of all of our negative feelings and illusions.

They describe the word  “Dukkha” in Sanskrit, poorly translated as “suffering”

Is suffering necessary? …..Yes and No.

I already said NO because we are not looking for.

However, I will now elaborate on the YES answer that is:

Without being masochistic, suffering can be used as an opportunity when it happens.

At this point, it has a purpose if not a necessity.

Let me elaborate on this counter-intuitive statement:

If we never suffer, we will not be able to discover the master of our suffering and its hidden tools that create suffering because we are trapped in a fictional daydreaming state, away from reality.

The master is our ego and its single strategy to generate suffering are “ I, me, myself and mine”

Suffering is like a waking call because it cracks the thick shell of our egotistic mind like a pneumatic hammer breaking concrete or like an MRI of our mind.

When the opening is done, we can look at our naked ego and discover, inside this beast, the tools it is creating to induce emotional pain from negative feelings to illusions and mind set.

Up to us to deal with them using awareness thru meditation.

At this point, suffering did its job and is not necessary nor has a purpose anymore.

This is the “NO” answer of the beginning.

Unfortunately, our ego becomes busy again to rebuild its shell, to blossom, and to bring back new egotistic causes of suffering.

Fresh suffering will, again, break the shell of our selfishness and so on until the end of our life.

When you are able to observe your ego-driven negative emotions, you realize that they are not the real you because you cannot be both the observer and what you are observing at the same time.

This realization that is the separation between genuine self and ego-driven self is also called “Awakening” or “Enlightenment”  

Thank you all.